Drama And Conflict

 

The  breeze, the breath of God, is still. And the mist upon the hill. Shadowy, shadowy ,yet unbroken, Is a symbol and a token. How it hangs upon the tree. Mystery of Mystery. - Edgar Allan Poe.

 

 

Conflict seemed to be the theme of the day yesterday.  I had a strange vague email sent to all staff members off a coworker. It was a warning about saying lies about co workers and gossiping behind their backs. I actually had heard about the incident she was vaguely referring too. I don't like people lying but in this case I actually believe the person she's accusing. I'd already viewed her snap chat pics taken at various times during the night. The dispute is over the accused co worker sleeping for 6 hours on their night shift leaving the accuser and so called liar to do all the work. I'm not getting involved so my choice is to leave them to it. I thought the email a bad idea since you've now escalated a dispute between two people into one including the entire work force. If management hear about it and see the snap chats the accuser would likely be sacked since sleeping on duty is a sackable offence.    

Since I had a day off I decided to take hubby out for lunch at a new restaurant not too far from my home. We are seated and I have a glass of wine and he has a beer. We order our meals and he orders more beer. Our meals arrive and he orders more beer. I'm still sipping on my wine wondering if this is a good idea. He orders a 4th beer in 45 minutes and I say no more after that.  He finishes his beer and leaves his hardly touched meal. He says are you ready to go. I say I haven't finished eating, still have my drink and haven't paid the bill. He says well I'm going to wait in the car. I let him go and finish my meal in peace. On getting outside I'm so angry he's taken off home in my car leaving me there. I'm so angry he's driving obviously drunk. I see I now have three options to get home. I could walk it's not that far. But, it's really hot and I'm wearing heels. I could also go to the shopping mall, hang out there and get a bus home. Or phone my sons and see if either can come and pick me up. I went with option three and luckily one was available to come and get me. 

When I get home I find he's sleeping on the sofa with a half empty bottle of vodka. So, he obviously made a detour on the way home. I spend the afternoon cleaning the house and doing laundry. I make a chicken curry with coconut rice for supper. He's still asleep. He only woke once to ask if I could vacuum quieter. He eventually wakes up I warm up his food he says he's not hungry but I told him to eat it. I decide to relax and watch Netflix. I put on a 3 part series Hatfield and the Mccoys. It was so good I watched the entire series. Made me think of the saying so you want a battle I'll give you a war.  Revenge is a very powerful emotion. To hurt someone as much as they've hurt you. Maybe forgiveness is a better choice.

The older you get, the more you realize you have no desire for drama, conflict or any kind of intensity.  You just want a cozy home , a nice book and a person who knows how you like your coffee.